"Lelaki, andai belum mampu memberi kepastian, jangan sesekali memberi harapan. Dan perempuan, andai belum menerima kepastian, jangan sesekali menyimpan harapan. Belajar mencintai dengan bijaksana. Sesuatu yang sering dilupakan oleh banyak manusia.
Tidak gelabah dan terburu-buru, tidak terlalu menampilkan isi hati, pandai menyiasati perasaan, berhati-hati dalam berucap, pandai mengatur logika. Cinta tidak akan menjadi sebuah keindahan bila diikuti dengan laku yang tidak santun. Belajarlah untuk memperlakukan cinta kita kepada orang lain secara
terhormat."
--kurniawangunadi
lalu aku menelusuri tulisan Bint Mohamoud.
tentang ini.
“If you are a sister, are you ready to obey another human being knowing that obeying your husband
(in lawful matters) earns the pleasure of Allah and is a means of entering Jannah (Paradise)? Are you
also aware that making your husband angry, denying him certain rights or intentionally disobeying
him, earns the wrath of Allah and the angels?
Are you ready to make certain sacrifices for the sake of pleasing your Lord? Are you ready to share
the worries, concerns and joys of your husband and make your home a sanctuary from the harshness of the outside world? Are you ready for a commitment that has serious religious implications?
The Messenger of Allah (salAllahu alaihy wasallam) said:
A woman came to ask the Prophet (salAllahu alaihy wasallam) about some matter, and when he had dealt with it, he asked her,
“Do you have a husband?” She said, “Yes.” He asked her, “How are you with him?”
She said, “I never fall short in my duties, except for that which is beyond me.”
He said, “Pay attention to how you treat him, for he is your Paradise and your Hell.”
(Ahmad)
dan ini.
“If you are a brother, are you ready to surrender to your wife knowing the natural disposition of a
woman? Are you ready to be the pillar she leans on, the one who will help her in her religion and
support her in her worldly endeavours? Will you see her as your other half, the one that will share
your happiness and sorrows or will you see her as inferior? Will you appreciate her accordingly and
honour her for not just being your wife but also the mother of your children? The Prophet clearly stated the duties of a husband and what qualities the ideal husband should strive for;”
Remember;
“Marriage is not a light matter that should be rushed or underestimated.”
